Wasting time on wasted time — the paradox of not being able to let things go.

August 8, 2021

Wasting time on wasted time — the paradox of not being able to let things go.

Is there is something that I absolutely hate, it’s wasting time.

I have so much that I want to do, to achieve, to accomplish, that when I waste time, it makes me go bananas.

The other day, my wife, who happens to be much wiser than me in a lot of aspects of life, ask me the question:

HOW MUCH TIME DO YOU THINK YOU ARE WASTING PONDERING ON HOW MUCH TIME YOU WASTED?

So I made a calculation.

If I waste an hour on some stupid BS, it usually takes me at least double the time to get back into my zone.

So instead of one hour wasted, I waste 3.

I’m not that stupid, and I realize that.

And that makes me even more upset, which in effect, makes me waste double that time.

That means that when I waste one hour of my time, I usually waste 5 hours, which can be a whole evening, which affects my routine the next day also, so count that in too.

So how do we fix that?

Learning to let things go. Realizing this paradox, and acting consciously upon it.

Write this down on a piece of paper that you put in your wallet, on your phone cover, anywhere that is accessible with you at all times:

“I have wasted X amount of time, X amount of energy. This is a fact, and it belongs to the past. I cannot change this fact, because I cannot change the past. It is physically impossible to do so. What I can do, and what I will do right now, is making a decision:

Do I want to waste X amount of time more because of that, or do I decide and commit to letting it go and moving on?”

I use this strategy, and the first few times, it was really hard.

It didn’t really work for me.

But like every strategy, every skill, it takes time to learn and to assimilate.

You just have to stick to it for a certain amount of time, which is what I did. Now, it works.

When I am upset at the time wasted, I immediately pull out this note, I keep it on my iCloud so that I can access it pretty much anywhere on any device, and I read it. I make a decision, usually to let go, and I move on.

Try it, and let me know how it goes.